What’s up everyone,
Let’s go behind the scenes of my original story/tale entitled: The New Student
This is a created story or tale that highlights two pairs of twin siblings that have maintained close bonds throughout their lives. While being students in middle/junior high school, they maintained a familiarity to their socio-economic environment. What we are seeing in this story is a group of black youth that was able to stick together and break a curse that seems to plague Black Americans. This curse deals with Black’s in America not being able to trust each other in areas of business, family relationships, money matters, etc.
In this story we get to see a family, a strong black family and strong friendship bonds. This is exceptionally important to Black culture whereas we are the original people of the world and we thrive in these close bonds. The saying “it takes a village” is just one proverb that expresses the importance of having positive, challenging, and balanced relationships.
I personally would have loved to grow up with a group of positive peers like this. Sharing with friends in these different life experiences and struggling together can create memories and an unshakable foundation in unity. *
Strong, positive, and challenging family bonds and relationships is something that has been stripped away from and denied of most beings belonging to the African diaspora in the United States of America. This statement stems from years of research relative to the timespan pre-Colombus (Colon’) to the Transatlantic Slave Trade (what was it really about and what really happened?) as well as stemming from more current events in the US of A.
An interesting article to read that provides background examples to how blacks were to be viewed and treated by colonial kidnappers is the “Willie Lynch Letter” (but good luck in trying to find a legit copy of this speech, said to be delivered by a British Kidnapper named Willie Lynch). The Willie Lynch letter, calls for a separation and dismantling of Afrikan consciousness; via keeping the Afrikan woman (representing life, longevity, fertility) close to the often European “slaver’s control” and far away from her man (representing life, safety, and security). This gross separation of powers and destruction of our natural checks and balances system, naturally enabled an environment for insecurity, anxiety, and doubt.
The New Student was created for you to reflect about your own friendships right here, right now. As a part of The New Student experience, I call you to action and challenge you to, ask yourself some questions about your current peer group.
Feel free to write this down and work on it in private, with a trusted mentor/elder/coach, or alongside some friends.
Will this friendship be positive in the long-run?
Does this friendship value my wants, feelings, and needs?
Am I able to be my authentic self (am I comfortable expressing my positive and negative traits)?
When I am with my friends am I being a plus to society or a minus?
When I was a youth, I made terrible decisions in the name of friendships. I continued to choose people whom I felt were equally yolked with myself, and in some cases this was true. In many cases, however, I was a misguided youth hanging out with other misguided and angry kids who had their own idea about how I should dress and live my life.
For the sake of friendship, I allowed things to happen around me that I knew was wrong and I behaved in ways that went against what my mother and father were teaching me. Now that I am older, I cannot blame other’s for my decisions but I do reflect on how things I did then I would kick myself for now.
Since you are younger, you have a chance to create positive lasting habits, and stay around others who are like minded and whom want to create something lasting in this world.
For Tha Parents
Be on the look out for your child. Don’t be afraid to do some field-research, you are the parent!
As a parent your children are your responsibility, and as such, don’t allow anyone to interfere with your plan for having a future leader, innovator, inventor, who leaves a positive mark on this world.
Who are they hanging out with? What do their parents do?
What are your child’s hobbies, are these new hobbies?
How can you promote your child’s positive hobbies and habits?
Children are the keys to the future, let’s allow them to unlock the doors to whatever is next.
*Note - this sort of unity can be found other areas of our American Black culture, such as within gangs, athletic teams, and etc. however we will touch further on that point in a future topic.
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